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A path that leads many to failure is the inherent craving to be liked by everyone. While networking and making connections is an important component in the ascension to wealth, being liked by everyone doesn’t make the slightest difference if you want to become successful. In fact, pandering to the needs of those who are actually looking to manipulate you for their own ends is detrimental to your efforts. The unfortunate truth of life is that you can either be liked by the masses, or respected by the masses according to the choices you make when dealing with people. To become successful means having complete control over the actions you take and to not be swayed by the public.
Success is created by taking progressive action steps without being distracted by the influences of other people. This is what it takes to create a bright future. Knowing when to say NO to people when their demands are not aligned with your goals is a skill. Success comes by putting yourself first, over other people’s opinions and expectations of you. Decide to succeed by basing your actions on what you must do to achieve your ambition, not what you must do to be liked.
In the words of ex-governor of California Arnold Schwarzenegger; “It is impossible to be a maverick or a true original if you’re too well behaved and don’t want to break the rules. You have to think outside the box. That’s what I believe. After all, what is the point of being on this earth if all you want to do is be liked by everyone and avoid trouble?”
Decide to adopt this “do it for yourself” attitude and apply it to your business world. Instead of doing favors to make the other person or party like you more, do it to negotiate what you can gain from them. The choice is up to you, either you will be liked because you are not the competition, or you will be respected because you are business minded. Get into the mind frame of where you ask for what you want, instead of what will please others. Under no circumstances deny your goals by placing others’ happiness before it. This is not rude, it is the only way to accomplish your goals. Maxim magazine owner Felix Dennis, worth $500 million, also advises entrepreneurs to put their goals first and others’ thoughts second. In Felix’s words, “If you’re not prepared to make the people around you miserable, you can’t get rich”. This is the code of all the top business winners. It is based on the fact that they know what they want and they are not afraid to ask for it – even if it makes the next person uncomfortable.
As soon as you try to be liked by someone, you’re giving them control over you. By clinging to their favorable opinion of you, you give them control over your actions. You alter yourself to make the other person happy. At this point, you are detaching yourself from your own goals, and chaining yourself to their agenda.
Successful habits do not involve shying away from persistently making demands clear, or changing a point of view so as not to appear pushy, or become annoying. The successful make sure that when they need to be heard, people listen. Because that’s what success requires. Either accept it, or strive to be liked by everybody.